Tuesday, June 2, 2009

POPCORN: A GF VEG NIGHT OUT


I was invited to my first party as a celiac after writing online: Bring your own!" (like actress Carol Channing, strict vegetarian, with thermos of brown rice and veg at White House dinner) "Research! Call ahead!" But with MY big invitation, I followed none of my own advice, buried my head in the sand,considered not going. Or going for a half hour. No one will miss you, party pooper par excellence: non-drinking, vegetarian celiac on Weight-Watchers, I thought. I was a wreck.


But I did go. Usually late for everything, I was first to arrive. (Plan: first to arrive, first to leave.) I came with one diet soda, not an evening's supply, but I’d be gone soon. I chatted with friends, even started to enjoy myself. I was so happy to see the guest of honor that for a moment I forgot I was starving. I had a tiny ziplock bag of popcorn hidden in my bag. Hors d'oeuvres: fish or veg, all on flour tortillas, it seemed. Too shy to ask if they were white corn, I ate my dwindling popcorn.


Main dishes were brought in: a pork roast, zucchini, green salad, rice. Popcorn was long gone. Light-headed from lack of food, I lunged into the kitchen whispering, "I'm a vegetarian celiac, could you tell me what I can eat?" Relief: only the pork was off  limits! The food was great, worthy of seconds. Soon, one of the guests left. A while later, before cake, but not before more chats and laughs, I left too. Proudly, NOT first in, first out. Nice, except for one thing.


The weeks before my friend’s birthday? Foolishly self-inflicted anxiety! I could have phoned, asked the menu. Brought a gf veg main dish, not a puny bag of popcorn. Hey, I could even have brought a my own slice of birthday cake and stayed all night. I could have destroyed the dread in so many ways! I gave up gluten, to be done with the physical pain it had caused. Now I'll give up those just-as-painful celiac mind games. Life's too short to miss the party!


6 comments:

Marissa Carter said...

Great Post! I have been there myself, nice to know I'm not the only one.

G.F.Veg said...

thanks marissa!

Laura said...

Sounds similar to a recent experience at my sister's dinner party. Unfortunately, her vegetarian offering was an iceberg lettuce salad with a single pea pod. I had to sneak out to the front yard later to eat an energy bar I had hidden in my purse. The next time I was invited to a party, I worked up the nerve to ask the hostess what she was serving and if I could bring something for myself. Now, whenever I go to a party or for a family visit, I pack safe food for myself. The funny thing is, it always looks so good, everyone else is envious of my plate. :)

G.F.Veg said...

Oh Laura, that's great about your envied plate! I couldn't have matzo at Passover because of the wheat, so I made some GF "matzos" and no one ate the REAL ones because these tasted so good! But I should say, that was a dinner where my sister went all out to have GFVEG options for me, which, when you have a situation where someone has been so caring, is truly moving!

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G.F.Veg said...

sorry i'm writing so late....appreciate your comment, however tardy my response!